Episode 37: Talking With BlakSyn About Life As A Black, Queer And Kinky Trailblazer

An Interview With BlakSyn…

We jump in with how they distinguish between the function of the labels they identify with; queer vs. pansexual vs. non-binary and how identity differs from orientation. They mention body dysphoria so we talk about how that plays into their identification as non-binary; what does it mean to have a penis? We dive deeper into the expectations that come with a body with male genitalia and how that affects identity and pleasure. What is it like to have sex with a penis? How does physical presentation affect the experience and expression of sexual pleasure?

Next we get into how they got into sex education and how it all began with work at a shop in Philly and a class aimed at people of color and kink. While we’re at it, they clarify the distinction between kink and BDSM before moving on to the practice; is sex always included? They describe how BDSM functions in their life, professionally and personally, and how it can be therapeutic for practitioners.

BlakSyn describes how their upbringing and trauma have affected the development of their identity and expression of sexuality. We get into some nitty gritty about family and the struggles that come with being the “black sheep” and using independence and distance as a means of self care.

The importance of being the “first domino” and an advocate, and the responsibility that comes with visibility in a marginalized community. They discuss how the work they do has long ago evolved past their own needs, but instead is about others and how they me be of value to others.

So many projects! We dive in to all the platforms and work they are currently working on. Writing, photography, porn, education, etc…

Race is a big part of all these things for them; especially when it comes to providing representation for people of color in the kink community. We talk specifically about race in pornography and the kinds of porn they are into right now. It just so happens they have a lot of friends who are making kick-ass, diverse and inclusive porn — check out the links below which include the makers they mention.

In addition to their personal projects, they are also participating in a number of events around the country — links below to those as well.

What a great talk! BlakSyn is awesome — follow them on all their platforms for fantastic content, information and inspiration…

***One more thing, this is Pride month and while it is certainly a time for celebration, it is also a time to be mindful of all the work which remains. Rights are being stripped, people are being killed, and the battle for equality continues every day. Here is a list of vetted organizations doing year-round work on behalf of the LGBTQ+ community: https://www.charitynavigator.org/index.cfm?bay=content.view&cpid=5013

Please consider making a financial donation this month, and every month.***

GRAPHICPAINT will be making donations throughout the year but also with every episode published this month

Independent and Queer Porn:
Eva Wo
Aorta Films
Bishop Black
Pink and White Productions
Crashpad Series
Hot Bits Film Fest

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Events:
The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) Annual Conference
Dark Odyssey Summer Camp
The Sex Down South

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Find BlakSyn on Instagram:
@kinkyblackeducator
@blackandbrownandblue 
@synblak