Episode 23: On Being A Victim Of "Stealthing," Part 1
A conversation with Jo about what it’s like being the victim of “stealthing.” And for those of you who don’t know what stealthing is:
According to Wikipedia: “…the practice of one sex partner covertly removing a condom, when consent has only been given by the other sex partner for condom-protected safer sex.”
We discuss having both recently been victims of stealthing
Jo describes the circumstances of the event, how things were with the guy before… and then details of the incident
She considers how her upbringing may have influenced her reaction
“Fight, flight or freeze”
Talking through the aftermath
Men who want families, the women who don’t
Is societal shaping of men a cause of such behavior?
The confrontation with her stealther
My experience with this type of assault
On being women who love sex, feminism, and carrying on after these events
What is the lesson here? Is there a lesson?
The piece I wrote about my own experience with this type of assault: I HATE THIS: “Stealthing, A Review”