Episode 71: Sexual Trauma And Healing

An interview with Alex about her sexual journey; starting with early sexual assault and trauma, the work she’s done to manage her experiences, and the current state of her sex life…

Some specific topics covered:

• Early experimentation

• Trauma, molestation

• Thoughts on sex work, legislation, agency, sex trafficking, lady boys

• Personal gender identification; the masculine and feminine energy in herself and partners

• Dealing with sex trauma in relationships

• Communication as it relates to trying new things that might make her appear weak, i.e., submissive stuff. What makes her equate submissive with weak and disrespect? The result of her past trauma? Her persona of being “tough”

• The potential for sex to be healing in this current relationship

• Specifics about the trauma; how long it took to see the experience as trauma

• Therapy; EMDR

• Backing up, some reflections on her first orgasm / first proactive sexual interest / early masturbation

• Masturbating and orgasming now

• A bit about anal sex - she loves it! The result of her first time being with someone experienced and knew not to just stick it in; the anal sex she has now